Just a quick post today, and I’m asking for your help.
I’m the mom of a tween who loves music. He wants it on all day every day, he wants to control what we listen to and the volume, he tries to memorize lyrics and artists—the whole shebang. This has the potential to be a great thing. Music makes life richer. But I’m having a hard time figuring out how to give him access to what he wants without giving him too much freedom.
My son particularly likes rap and R&B, thanks largely to a cool family member who introduced him to the genre. Unfortunately, he’s also introduced him to songs that refer to women as the B-word and talk about sex like it’s as casual as a conversation with your neighbor. Some of that stuff slips past my son—the euphemisms aren’t obvious to an 11 year old—but exposure to music like this can’t be good for his spirit.
He’s been begging for Apple Music, and I’m considering it because the alternative is him sneaking the iPad to search YouTube for music videos, and you and I all know that’s not a safe environment. He says he’s just looking up lyric videos; I say there’s no way to ensure that appropriate content will pop up on the screen (not to mention that I don’t want him to read all the lyrics). I put a radio in his bedroom, and he loves that, but he wants to be able to choose what songs he hears.
So how do you handle the music thing with your kids? Or how did your parents handle it with you?
If I had my way, he’d listen to the Beatles, classic rock, and jazz, but so far, no cigar. Plus, I like that he has his own opinions. I don’t want to squelch his interests, and I don’t want to start a battle I can’t win. Thoughts? Please advise. •